It's one of those memory days. I just had a conversation about "putting on the big girl panties" with a friend of mine. You know, those times when you really need to do the right thing, but it's hard because it goes against your non-confrontational nature?
Okay, I will admit that I can be plenty of confrontational, but not when it means disappointing someone. Or I perceive it as such. So saying "no" can be a tough one form me. I'm a work in progress, what can I say?
Anyhow, we were talking about "ghosting" and how it's the easy way, but it is kind of unfair to the other person. Then again, there is the modified version where you send the text or email then delete your profile/block their number so they can't respond and you won't be tempted to engage. I'm not sure if that's better or worse...
There is a point, I swear! There have been two people that I haven't been in "relationships" with that I've actually hiked up the panties and told them they were nice, just not for me. And it was because they really were nice! Both were good guys, and I wanted to let them know that I really thought that, so they'd carry that forward with them. Both guys I think would have been good catches. Just, not for me. Okay, well one definitely not for me, the other just had bad timing-I met my husband at the same time I met him, and knowing there was something special between us I wanted to concentrate on that.
This was a good 12 years ago, and I still remember the guy's name! So Nathan Udall, where ever you are, I hope you found a great girl because you apparently made such a positive impression on me that I can remember your name when I can't remember anyone's phone number! Cheers!
And for those guys who say nice doesn't get them vary far, really I think you are probably just being nice to the wrong people.
Tuesday, June 11, 2019
Wednesday, June 5, 2019
Bought a House, Became Poly-Gamerous
A little over a year ago I bought a house. I love my house. It has too many bathrooms, but better too many than to few. I just have to remember to flush all the toilets once a month. It's like a victory lap for home-ownership!
I bought a house a mile away from my best friends, and about 20 minutes from the other couple that together make up my primary gaming group. It was so very convenient-no more hour drive for game night! Then within 6 months the other couple moved close to an hour and a half away. Seriously, I need to take 4 highways and state route to get there. I'm happy for them, and it was a great choice for them, but it meant our weekly game night became more like monthly (and one of our other members moved to New Jersey so we figured he was lost in time and space). But we had discovered LEGACY GAMES!
For those who don't know, a legacy game is usually a variant of a tabletop board game in which the game itself is designed, through various mechanics, to change permanently over the course of a series of sessions (thank you Google for not making me use my own words). So we started Charterstone, fun game of resources and taunting each other about getting past the crack (the fold in the board).
But then another friend who is passionate about his games fell in love with Gloomhaven, another legacy game, but needed 3 more people. I have people! And I'm missing my game night. So this is how I became poly-gamerous. A splinter group was formed and we started getting together monthly for GH. Both games take a few hours to play, so these are weekend affairs since we all live about an hour from each other.
So I was good right? Apparently not. As our GH enthusiast and I were playing games waiting to go to a hockey game he suggested the Arkham Horror Card Game -and I do love Arkham Horror, so of course I was in! It too is a campaign based game, so now I've got 3 groups, 3 games, all of which need weekend time to pay.
But wait! Before my original group scattered to the 4 winds we were also playing Pathfinder Skull and Shackles. Never one to give up a story, we play this once every few months, usually doing a run of Charterstone in the early part of the day and Pathfinder in the afternoon.
For all these we try to rotate locations so no one is driving or hosting every time. We get a chance to talk, have food, laugh, catch up, mock each other. It really is a great way to stay connected.
But man, I bought a house and now I live in my car.
I bought a house a mile away from my best friends, and about 20 minutes from the other couple that together make up my primary gaming group. It was so very convenient-no more hour drive for game night! Then within 6 months the other couple moved close to an hour and a half away. Seriously, I need to take 4 highways and state route to get there. I'm happy for them, and it was a great choice for them, but it meant our weekly game night became more like monthly (and one of our other members moved to New Jersey so we figured he was lost in time and space). But we had discovered LEGACY GAMES!
For those who don't know, a legacy game is usually a variant of a tabletop board game in which the game itself is designed, through various mechanics, to change permanently over the course of a series of sessions (thank you Google for not making me use my own words). So we started Charterstone, fun game of resources and taunting each other about getting past the crack (the fold in the board).
But then another friend who is passionate about his games fell in love with Gloomhaven, another legacy game, but needed 3 more people. I have people! And I'm missing my game night. So this is how I became poly-gamerous. A splinter group was formed and we started getting together monthly for GH. Both games take a few hours to play, so these are weekend affairs since we all live about an hour from each other.
So I was good right? Apparently not. As our GH enthusiast and I were playing games waiting to go to a hockey game he suggested the Arkham Horror Card Game -and I do love Arkham Horror, so of course I was in! It too is a campaign based game, so now I've got 3 groups, 3 games, all of which need weekend time to pay.
But wait! Before my original group scattered to the 4 winds we were also playing Pathfinder Skull and Shackles. Never one to give up a story, we play this once every few months, usually doing a run of Charterstone in the early part of the day and Pathfinder in the afternoon.
For all these we try to rotate locations so no one is driving or hosting every time. We get a chance to talk, have food, laugh, catch up, mock each other. It really is a great way to stay connected.
But man, I bought a house and now I live in my car.
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